I’m a former honorary member of the Wig Party. Once upon a time I wore wigs and named all of them too. I wore them to hide behind my natural hair at a time in my life when I was fearful of standing out, my textured hair not being acceptable, and appearing unkempt to people in my social circles. I wore wigs or added hair everywhere. As a matter of fact, I couldn’t imagine leaving the house without wearing these “perfectly laid” wigs. That’s when I knew the wig/s was/were a crutch for me. Wigs are not bad, my dependency on wigs was the problem. I would cancel going to the gym and other appointments because I was fearful of what my social group would say or think.
It seemed silly to be so dependent on a mass of hair sewn to a wig cap. I would say I experienced some uneventful moments from wearing those pesky wigs. I suffered the following:
- misalignment during a staff meeting
- worrying if people knew if I was wearing a wig
- having my scalp feel like it was baking especially during the dog days of summer
- running and having it blow off my head (my son still reminds me of that one moment)
- having it tip off of my head when was getting a body massage and my massage therapist having to hand it back to me at the end of my appointment 😮
A few embarrassing mishaps …is an understatement. I’ve experienced countless luke-warm memories, enough to want to make a change. I knew wearing my natural hair would mean that I would have to work on myself.
Self Love & Acceptance
There would be no more hiding my hair. To be true to myself in the truest sense of authenticity its a bridge I was willing to cross. Was I fearful? Yes! I was terrified and it wouldn’t be easy. Talk about being vulnerable, this is a very humbling experience. I had some work to do first. The easiest way was to not care what anyone thought of me. I had to embrace ALL of me despite who didn’t like my natural.
Fros & Beaus
I’ve had a friend’s husband say some distasteful things about my natural hair when I chose to embrace it. My husband quickly addressed that and I received that apology. This showmanship was something that I’d never forget. There is nothing like a man that loves you, ALL of you and rises up against the asunders. ~ Matthew 19:6
Above it All
Day by day, I built my inner man, searched for my inner beauty, building up my self-esteem with self-reaffirmations and learning to love myself despite it all because God made me in his image and He Loves Me despite it all. During this journey of self-love, I loved whatever came…bad hair days, less than perfect hair days, good hair days, it didn’t matter. My prayer was to embrace it all!
When I did, I have never felt more empowered to be Natural and totally Liberated!
Surprisingly, when I stopped suffocating my hair with the daily use of wigs day in and day out, my stagnant natural hair has since grown leaps and bounds. I hadn’t realized I was stifling my hair from giving it LIFE. I look back and think, why didn’t I love myself better? I didn’t know my self-worth. God gave me the strength to embrace me and empower my natural hair clients to do the same.
Check out tv celebrity, Sheryl Underwood, whom I went to see at the DC Improv make amends with her community and Reveal her Natural Hair hiding behind her many wigs.
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